- How to interest your husband
- What you should not do
- How to return the former passion
- How to keep your husband’s love forever
How to Interest is Your Husband?
Since couples spend much time together, they know each other so well, and it becomes hard to surprise each other. This needs to be corrected. There was a strange trend: as soon as the honey-moon period of the marriage passes a lot of the romance just dies. Some say this is due to one of the partners letting him/herself go. This is justified simply: “Let love me as I am”. While many women may not mind if their husband gets a little out of shape, men tend to love with their eyes and their hearts, so this issue can create a problem for them.
In order to ignite the former flame in the eyes of your spouse, you should always look good, even at home. We are not saying that you can’t have comfy clothes at home, just let it be simple like a sundress, for example. There should not be any baggy clothes – let your spouse admire your charms. In general, from the very beginning of your relationship follow one rule – look good at home. You do not have to be perfect with makeup. But clean hair, nails and teeth – this is the golden rule. You must always look good, no matter what happens. It helps to men’s interest for a long time.
Do not forget that all your beauty treatments and other intimate matters as long as possible must be remained a secret for your husband. In order to interest him again, you need to look chic, but not to show him exactly how you do it. There should be no masks in the evening in front of your husband – for this purpose there is a bathroom, as well as for other female treatments. At least something must remain a mystery to men. And never tell about the delivery of a child (yours or someone else’s). Not every man likes such a conversation. Leave these impressions with you. As well as you should not discuss any surgery or other medical interventions. The average man who does not work as a doctor, does not like such stories.
Cook your husband’s favorite foods, even if you can not stand them. Do this at least a couple of times a week. This will show how well you know him and appreciate his tastes. Do not forget that cooking should not take away all of your free time. Let it be just a nice addition to family life and nothing more. Try to surprise him with your culinary creations, and do not cook once for the entire week. This is not only harmful for the stomach, but it is quickly boring.
Try to surprise him not only in the culinary field, but also in intimate life. This is an important aspect.
Perhaps it is even more important than all the rest. Try something new, diversify your behaviour in bed. And of course, do not refuse sex according for various unreasonable reasons.
Do not forget to surprise your husband.
In the end, in order to make the starting point of a new phase of family life, you can change the situation. For example, if the house is constantly with children or other relatives who do not create the right sexy mood, just rent a room, organise the romance. The best option – to go on a vacation. Even if it will be a summer residence or camping for the weekend. This will help you feel liberated and even closer.
What You Should Not Do
Under no circumstances do not scold your husband. During the time that you have lived together, most likely, there have already been a lot of quarrels. Reduce them to a minimum. In many respects it depends precisely on the woman. There are situations in which it is possible to remain silent, to laugh it off, or even ignore. This will be a pleasant surprise for for a husband who is feeling guilty and is already prepared himself for a fight.
Even if everything has become hard in the family life, that is no reason to be unfaithful. This concerns both sides. In order to love your husband you should not even have temptation to have an affair, you should change your behavior. Be gentler, more womanly and easier to communicate with. Remember what you were in the beginning of the relationship, what you were when your husband fell in love with you. Try to regain that attitude.
Never be offended without cause. And even if the cause in your opinion is there try not to be offended. Especially during the period when you are trying to return former passion – it just spoils everything. If your interests are not the same in something – that’s no reason to keep silent, be offended and sulking in the corners. Just avoid conflicts on these topics. In the end, everyone has different tastes.
Do not blackmail your husband with sex or food. This will not bring anything new into the relationship, except offenses and quarrels. Delicious lunch and dinner, clean clothes and bedding, good sex, not through force, all these are a pledge of strong family relationships whatever happens in the house. The same goes for concerns with housekeeping. This is a direct duty of women – to keep the family hearth, do not neglect your duties, even if you are very tired at work.
In order to make your husband fall in love with you again, give him your attention. You can not change the family night (even at the TV) on your own interests. Even if you really want to chat with a friend, go somewhere alone or surf the Internet. Your husband needs your attention, even if the silent, even if he does not talk. Just watch a movie together, lie on the couch, or play a favorite game.
Do not neglect the aspect of communication. Be interested in the affairs of your husband and carefully listen to what is important for him to say. In your turn also tell him how was your day was, but do not forget that a dialogue is a conversation between two. Do not turn it into a monologue. Otherwise, first,your husband will quickly get bored from it. Second, it will show that you are interested only in what happens to you. Third, it’s just not polite.
Communication between husband and wife is an important aspect of family life.
Do not bother your husband about his faults and bad habits. Most likely, they have always been, it is difficult to change him. Do not give neither yourself nor him any unnecessary and endless problems buzzing on the topic: “what kind of person are you?” “why do you always do this way and not that way?” etc… If bad habits have already appeared during the family life then blame yourself in part as well. To correct him with endless conversations about how he is spoiled is also not necessary. Choose soft tactics – it is affection and care. This can move mountains, it is not like weaning your husband from smoking, for example, or throwing things around the room.
Never scold your man for what you allow yourself. For example, for the fact that he eats in bed, yet from time to time, you enjoy a snack in front of the TV. This will only lead to a new round of quarrels and grievances. And your goal is to make your husband fall in love with you. Go on to the contrary – he likes after work dinner in bed – bring him dinner in bed. Firstly, it will surprise him. Secondly, he will appreciate it. Third, you will show him care and attention. This once again will convince your man that your feelings for him over the years, have not cooled down, and have remained at the same level.
How to Return the Former Passion
If the husband openly telsl you that he was tired of family life with you, try to find in yourself strength to calmly go point by point to discuss with him your mistakes. to criticism from his side the most cold-blooded.Take his criticisms as calmly as possible and then analyze for yourself whether you want to change and win back the love of your husband. If you have the desire and strength, then set the time period during which you try to start from scratch.
First of all, work on the bugs that your husband is not satisfied with and then proceed with the other feminine wiles in order to make your husband fall in love with you again. For example, start to make little surprises for him. It is does not have to be something massive. Let it be little notes with words of love or with your memories. What should be hidden is your work. Only this should be done at home and not in the pockets of his jacket and pants. It is possible that this just distracts him or he will look awkward in front of colleagues at work.
Heat up his interest, sending text messages of an intimate nature. But at a time when you know that he really is not too busy. For example, at lunchtime or in the evening, when he is already home. You can tell him what you would like him to do with you. Flirt with your man. It will remind him of the most romantic period, when your relationship was just in its infancy.
Invite your husband for a romantic dinner. Let it be at home. It is important – to remove all distractions. This concerns animals, relatives and even children. In addition childern can be sent to grandparents for even a day. Remind your husband about how you can be passionate and delightful. And in order to adjust to the desired mood of your husband, and you can use a little trick – a perfume with pheromones, meals with aphrodisiacs, sexy outfit. It should not be vulgar and banal, but with a hint of light erotica.
A romantic dinner is important even after many years of marriage.
Why do you need to start to restore the relationship “from the bed”? Because what is happening in it, often is an indicator for men. A passionate and ardent sex life is the key to the senses for the men. But sluggish and routine is only duty and nothing more. Do not make your strongest weapon commonplace.
And most important, do not be too insistent. Men do not like that in any form. If he refuses something (even a romantic dinner you prepared so carefully), find the strength to take it easy. Perhaps your husband has some troubles at work or he initially had other plans. Just quickly re-classify a romantic dinner to an ordinary one, without any reproaches. Take care and without insisting ask why the refusal was given. Be moderately curious in inquiring about the reason.
Do not be too insistent, this does not mean that one should be indifferent. This once again convinces your husband that the relationship has exhausted itself. Show interest, but not aggressively. And God forbid you check-up on your husband. This should never be done, under any circumstances. First, if he wants to hide something, he any way will. Second, appreciate yourself and your choice. If your man is guilty of something, he will find the strength (albeit with time) to admit it.
In order to return the last passion in a relationship, remember more often what happened between you in the brightest period of your relationship. Why is this useful? Firstly, it refreshes memory. Second, a certain nostalgia for the old times pushes, sometimes on interesting actions between you and your husband. Third, it’s just fun. A family life should not be an obligation, it should bring only joy. Fourth, it is a good topic for dialogue.
Add more fun to relationships.
How to Keep Your Husband’s Love Forever
Treat your man, as a man! Do not try to control him at all or keep him on a short leash. Firstly, no one likes that. You would not like such treatment either. Secondly, no one likes henpecked. You do want a Man with a capital letter, and not a weak-willed creature.
Finance. Yes, it is exactly that stumbling block for many families. If your spouse gives you all the money, would you be kind enough to be interested in his opinion about how it is best to spend it. You should at least make an approximate plan of expenditures for the current month.
Never lie. Even in such a typically female thing as the cost of a new acquisition. Either save or have the courage to admit how much you have spent. Do not tell lies about the little things or anything for that matter. If you made a choice in favor of a particular man, be honest with him.
Expand the horizons. Do not live on the scale of only work and your home. Go out for a walk together. And it should be no trip to the store or on business. Just walk in the park together, for example. If there is a dog, then get yourself a good family tradition – to walk with it in the evening. Always and in any weather. This is another reason to spend time together, talk, or even be silent. But together.
Come up with a family tradition! If it still has not been created during your time together then create one now. Then agree in advance to comply with it, no matter what happens. For example, spend the weekend outdoors together. It is good for your health, and relationships. In bad weather you can spend the weekend in the entertainment places – cafes, cinema, theater, museum and others. If only your interests coincide here.
Find common hobbies. For example, enroll together in the pool or fitness club. If your man is not such a big fan of outdoor activities, look for compromises. For example, it could be a video game. Find a common interest, which will unite you once again. If your spouse likes to destroy the monsters in his spare time, then you should learn as well. Together is more fun, and you will have something to talk about later.
In order to ensure your husband will always love you, you should love yourself. But remember the measure. Daffodils are cute for very few people. If your self-esteem is incredibly low, you have to work on yourself. The man loves the woman who loves herself. Or who at least cleverly disguises her complexes. Do not moan every day about something that is wrong with you. Perhaps your spouse does not notice this at all, but he will start to pay attention to your imperfections due to your constant mention. Anyway, no one likes eternally dissatisfied people.
Do not forget about the love of yourself.
Enter it as a rule to have physical contact with your husband. For example, kiss him when he goes to work and comes back home. According to statistics couples who kiss every day with each other, break up less than those who neglect this ritual. This also applies to hugs. Find time to once again hug your man. For example, when he watches the news or reads. Yes, even when he just sits at the computer.
Never tell to your girlfriends or relatives about what your husband is: in bed, in communication and at work. This is disresectful to them. Home conflicts are only yours and no one else’s. Unnecessary gossip and talk only interferes with family. Make it a rule to praise your husband, or do not say anything about him, and look for other topics.
Most importantly, love your husband! Men are not so callous as it seems at first glance. They feel everything that happens. And if you truly love him and try to be number one for him in his life, he will see it and appreciate your efforts. In order to make your husband fall in love with you again, for your whole life, you just need to love him. Always. Even when you are tired and you do not have the strength to talk or something more. Just nestle him, hug and kiss. This will be enough to show that you are still the same woman he loved before. Be together in all circumstances, taking the side of your husband and supporting him. This is also very valuable for him. Even if he is not right. Give support to him, appreciate him and love him. This is enough for harmony in the family.